In the thrilling kickoff to our article series, we fearlessly delved into the art of silencing negativity and establishing unshakeable boundaries. We passionately explored the realms of commitment, acceptance, shedding judgment, tuning into your body’s signals, and cultivating gratitude for the incredible vessel you inhabit. And guess what? We are not done yet. But that is not all. We are back today with the grand finale, featuring five final ways to begin a love affair with your body.
Buckle up for a thrilling ride into self-love, where each word is a step towards the empowering romance you deserve.
Love and Accept
Embark on a journey of self-love and transformation by embracing your body just as it is while envisioning the body you desire. It is a powerful shift that begins with recognizing the impact of your focus on your body. You have likely heard the saying, “what you focus on multiplies,” and I wholeheartedly believe in its truth. If your attention is fixated on the aspects of your body that you dislike, love may seem elusive. Dwelling on the discontentment only perpetuates the cycle of unhappiness.
Starting a love affair with your body demands a conscious commitment—is it effortless? No. However, make the resolute decision now that your body deserves love, and actively work towards it. Begin with small steps. Identify the little things you adore about your body in its current state. Redirect your focus from what you wish to change to what you currently appreciate. It may feel unfamiliar initially, but with time and practice, it becomes a transformative ritual.
Embarking on a love affair with your body is not an overnight feat. It is a day-by-day, moment-by-moment process. Take each step deliberately and celebrate the progress as you actively nurture the love and acceptance your body deserves.
Challenge your body
Surprisingly, our bodies thrive on embracing new challenges—a fact we often overlook because we tend to stick to the familiar. Our preconceived notions limit our understanding of the incredible capabilities inherent in our bodies. To unlock this potential, you need to embrace boldness and actively challenge your body.
Prepare to be astounded as your body reveals its prowess beyond the confines of your comfort zone. This courageous exploration showcases your body’s remarkable abilities and provides a fresh perspective, unveiling a whole new realm of possibilities you never thought possible. Get ready to be amazed as you redefine your body’s potential from an entirely new standpoint!
Reframe Exercising and Make it About Feeling Good
Embarking on a journey to love your body does not have to involve the mundane routine of the gym. I will be the first to admit, it is not my cup of tea. Despite dabbling in it a few times, I discovered my passion lies in moving my body in ways that are exciting and enjoyable. Enter my exploration into Yoga, Pilates, Kickboxing, and various other activities over the years. However, it was after my 2016 surgery that I truly committed to reconnecting with my body.
Yoga became more than just a workout; it transformed into a spiritual practice, a sanctuary that eased the daily distress and anxiety. Yet, I craved something fun that made me sweat and left me feeling invigorated. Cue Soulcycle—a game-changer. In the beginning, I stumbled through classes, offbeat and struggling with bike movements. But with the support and encouragement from instructors like Liz and the gentle giant Noa, I not only improved but fell head over heels for the experience.
Four years of SoulCycle later, I can attest—it is not just the fun and feel-good factor that kept me hooked. It was the community, a tribe of 20 incredible women riding together, cheering each other on at ungodly hours. Our bodies were not perfect, but darn, did we feel good about ourselves, and that is what truly mattered.
So here is the takeaway. Find an activity that brings you joy and leaves you feeling fantastic whether it is the gym or something entirely different. The key is to revel in the exercise you enjoy, bask in the fabulous post-workout glow, and watch as consistency becomes second nature. Forego the intensity for the joy of feeling good, and you will find yourself on the path to not just fitness but a genuine love affair with your body.
Be Affectionate with Your Body
In the first part, I shared the tender care I began showering upon my body, from mindful cleansing rituals to thoughtful wardrobe choices. It dawned on me that, in moments of insecurity or self-loathing, we tend to overlook the positive attributes that make our bodies unique.
I had an epiphany about my clothing choices—oversized garments meant to conceal rather than celebrate. This realization led to a shift in my approach, no longer treating myself with the same attention and sensuality as before. The aggression replaced the gentleness.
The turning point came on a day in May, as I prepared for my cousin’s wedding. Amidst negative self-commentary, I caught sight of my fabulous curves in the mirror. A moment of revelation hit me—these curves were a gift, and I needed to embrace them. Spending more than five minutes admiring my body like a priceless piece of art, I dressed with newfound intention, admiration, and attention. It was a transformative experience, a moment I bottled up.
While I may not replicate this every time I dress, I have challenged myself to infuse intention and attention into each outing. The love for myself and my body during these moments is indescribable. My body is finally receiving the attention and love it deserves.
Now, my goal is to express myself through style in this new body, dressing with purpose and attention each time. I implore you to give your body the attention it craves, dress with intention, and approach the process with affection every single time. If your budget allows, consider intentionally adding a few pieces that celebrate and honor your unique form. Your body deserves it, and you deserve to revel in the love affair with yourself.
Dancing becomes a transcendent experience, especially when grappling with body image concerns. The sheer magic unfolds when you let loose, dancing unabashedly, free from judgment and inhibition. In those moments, my body regains its freedom, rediscovering movements I’d long forgotten.
The key? It is all about the music. I select tunes that beckon my body to sway, granting it the freedom to express itself without constraints. As I move to the rhythm, I breathe, sometimes shedding tears as I allow myself to feel every emotion coursing through me.
Reggae and soca have been my go-to for solo dance sessions, but recently, I have delved into the enchanting world of belly dancing music. Meanwhile, my friend Viv swears by the invigorating beats of hip-hop. The genre does not matter. What is crucial is choosing music that ignites that desire to move. It is irrelevant whether you believe you can dance or not.
They say emotional pain becomes trapped in our bodies, and dancing emerges as a beautiful, liberating way to release it—the first step towards initiating a profound love affair with our bodies. So, put on that music, let go, and allow the dance to be the beginning of a beautiful love story with yourself.
Practice the Art of Beautiful words
Every word you utter carries the weight of a prayer, shaping the narrative of your existence. When conversing with yourself, especially about your body, let your words be a beautiful symphony of kindness and love.
Speaking disparagingly about your body, whether in solitude or among others, only distorts the perception you hold of your own form. While I can shower you with affirmations about the sheer fabulousness and perfection of your body. Their impact remains limited until you genuinely believe in its inherent beauty. So, it is time to bid farewell to self-criticism, judgment, and negative self-talk. Instead, focus on gracefully articulating kind sentiments to your body. Start small—compliment the features you adore. Speak words of love until you find yourself enamored with another aspect, then repeat.
The belief that complaining yields results is a misconception. In reality, it only tears us down further. Complaining about your body will not magically make you happier, slimmer, sexier, or healthier. The key to unlocking self-love lies in practicing kindness.
I embarked on the journey of initiating a love affair with my body with passion, and I am thrilled to sustain that commitment. Although I may not be precisely where I aspire to be on this journey, my dedication is unwavering. As I devour each new article on body love, I diligently jot down suggested tips. Read on for six gems to inspire and guide you on your own path of cultivating love for your body.
Here are six additional ways to begin a love affair with your body
Get ready to infuse your life with a newfound love for your body as we unveil six dynamic ways across the vast expanse of the Internet.
- Masturbate: Embrace self-love in the most intimate way possible. It is a powerful act of connecting with and appreciating your body.
- Connect with Social Media: Dive into the digital realm by following social media accounts that showcase bodies similar to yours. Surround yourself with positive and empowering images that celebrate diversity.
- Daily Self-Care Acts: Make a commitment to pamper yourself every day. Whether it’s a soothing bath, a mindful meditation session, or a simple moment of indulgence, prioritize self-care to strengthen your bond with your body.
- Social Media Feed Audit: Conduct a thorough audit of your social media feeds. Unfollow anything or anyone that contributes to negative body image. Create a virtual space that uplifts and inspires you.
- Sensual Selfies: Explore the empowering realm of sensual selfies. Capture and celebrate your body in a way that feels authentic and empowering to you. It is a visual affirmation of self-love.
- Contemplate Body Neutrality: Shift your perspective towards body neutrality—an approach that goes beyond traditional body positivity. Embrace the concept and explore the freedom it brings by detaching your self-worth from your body’s appearance.
These six avenues pave the way for a transformative journey toward self-love. As you navigate the digital landscape, remember that your body is unique, worthy, and deserving of all the love you’re about to shower upon it.
Wrapping Things Up
In conclusion, this journey towards cultivating a profound love affair with your body is an exploration of self-discovery and empowerment. Embrace the magic of self-love through intimate moments, both physically and virtually. Connect with the positive energy of social media, curating a space that mirrors the beauty and diversity of your own form. Infuse your daily routine with acts of self-care, recognizing the importance of nurturing your body and mind.
Conduct a mindful audit of your digital surroundings, ensuring they contribute positively to your body image. Dive into the liberating experience of capturing sensual selfies, celebrating your unique beauty. Finally, consider the empowering shift towards body neutrality, allowing your self-worth to transcend the confines of societal expectations.
As you embark on this journey, remember that every step you take is a prayer, a declaration of love for the vessel that carries you through life. Let kindness be the language you speak to your body, and watch as each intentional act fosters a deeper connection. Your body is not just a canvas. It is a masterpiece deserving of admiration and celebration. Embrace these transformative practices, and witness the blossoming of a genuine, unshakable love for the incredible entity that is your body.